涓�銆侀槄璇荤悊瑙?/p>
鈥?/p>
You
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re trying to control my life,
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says my nine-year-old son.
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I
don
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t know why you think you can do that, but you can
鈥?/p>
t.
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I received
this bit of information after I asked Gabriele to put his dirty socks in the
basket. And I get no sympathy from my mother, who says,
鈥?/p>
You let him
have his way from the beginning.
鈥?/p>
It
鈥?/p>
s true. I have always asked Gabriele
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s opinion, found out how he
felt about things
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treated him as my peer, not my child. And what have
I got from my troubles? A lot of back talk. At least I
鈥?/p>
m not alone; it
鈥?/p>
s a
complaint heard among parents across the country.
It
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s not just that we
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re confused by the contradictory advice offered
in parenting books. The fact is, in an effort to break away from how we
were raised
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to try something more liberal than our parents
鈥?/p>
鈥?/p>
do it
because I say so
鈥?/p>
approach
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our generation has gone too far.
鈥?/p>
Today
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s
parents want to be young, so they try to be friends with their children,
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says Kathy Lynn, a parenting educator.
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When it comes to discipline, our society has gone from one
extreme to the other,
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says Ron Moorish, a behavior specialist.
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We
used to use the strap, to intimidate. Then we had permissiveness, and
now it
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s about giving children choices and allowing them to learn from
their own experiences.
鈥?/p>
Real discipline, says Moorish, is about teaching.
鈥?/p>
By correcting our
children when they do something wrong, we teach them how to behave
properly,
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he says. But this only works, he emphasizes, if parents regain
their position of authority. Children will always be children. The key is
for parents to choose to take the time to guide and teach their kids.
Rita Munday, a mother of four children, couldn
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t believe the dramas
that played out in the children
鈥?/p>
s shoe store she operated. She often saw
children insist on having the high-priced, brand-name shoes. And even
when the mother didn
鈥?/p>
t want to spend the money, she would give in
when the kid started acting up and throwing shoes around.
Rhonda Radice, Munday
鈥?/p>
s younger colleague, is one parent who
has bucked the trend and is proud of it.
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I don
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t negotiate with them.
You can
鈥?/p>
t. I
鈥?/p>
ve seen parents come into the store and bribe their children
to behave. You shouldn
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t have to buy love and respect.
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1
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The author
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s way of treating her son ____________.
A
銆?/p>
is shared by many parents
B
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is encouraged by her mother
C
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proves to be quite successful
D
銆?/p>
shows little concern for the child
鍙傝�冪瓟妗?/p>
:A
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:
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